Yesterday we talked a little about one of the arguments that usually occur when talking about babies, children, education and parenting (dangerous subject where they exist): the phrase “this has been done a lifetime and nothing has happened to us“.
This phrase seems to sentence any subject by downplaying the rest of the arguments and wanting to show that new trends or studies, which try to cement a new path in the way of educating our children, seem rather nonsense to someone who has nothing else to do. do.
As I consider that knowledge does not take place and that, despite everything, the world advances and society too, it seems perfectly logical that the way of interacting with our children also advances with the new findings on issues of both education, functioning of the brain, emotional development and even nutrition. That it has always been done does not mean that it is well done.
If yesterday I commented three cases in which it is possible that someone says that "nothing has happened to us", today I bring another three:
Let them cry a little
Formerly it was said that it was good for children to cry because their lungs were expanding, or simply to learn that in life they will not have everything they want.
It is true that life can be more or less hard and it is clear that you can not have everything, however it is not necessary to make it happen to a baby “to learn” because we want to or not, disappointments or frustrations will come Yes or yes.
On the subject of the lungs, it is not necessary to extend much. When they catch air the lungs expand and when they release it they contract. Crying does not produce any beneficial effect at the pulmonary level.
Anyway, when a father (or a mother) says that he does not want to let his son cry, it is the moment when someone replies that “this has been done a lifetime and nothing has happened to us”, that the children you have to let them cry, that "I did it with mine and it has not been traumatized", that because I cry a little it will not die, ...
Well, we return a little to the issue of hitting children. There are authors who are commenting that even the way we are born, the treatment we receive or how we feel at that moment can affect our way of being or our character.
In the first years of life the brain grows to almost double its size. This growth is based on new neural connections that did not exist at birth. These connections are made based on the experiences of the baby. This means that a baby who lives with a family that attends to his crying lives in a state of calm and has a different brain than a child whose crying is not attended to, which will probably live with more tension and stress.
Dip the pacifier in various substances
In the past it was common to use the suction of the pacifier of children to get some effects. There were those who dipped it in sugar, honey or condensed milk, with which the child assured a few minutes of silence and tranquility.
Another solution was to dip it in an alcoholic beverage, such as wine. The boy relaxed and after a while, he even fell asleep.
“This has been done a lifetime and nothing has happened to us“, But the risk of tooth decay was evident and that is why it is not advisable to wet the pacifier in anything that can produce them and alcohol is a great“ mataneuronas ”, not advisable for those whose brain is growing and developing as never will.
Give them artificial milk
Today's parents are one of the so-called generations of the bottle. Many of us had a tit until 3 months, when pediatricians indicated starting complementary feeding and when many moms began to "run out of milk" (probably coinciding with some growth outbreak of babies, who demanded more breast) and began to give us bottles With artificial milk.
Now there is much more information about breastfeeding, but there are still many minds to open and this information must still reach many fathers and mothers, many future fathers and mothers, many grandparents and grandmothers, many future grandparents and grandmothers and many Health professionals, who follow, many of them, with the knowledge of those years.
This difference in knowledge is making many mothers who breastfeed receive advice to supplement with artificial milk because "it is underweight", because "it asks you too much" or for whatever reason.
Many moms defend their breastfeeding by layer and sword and this means that many interlocutors end up saying that "we have all had artificial milk and look, here we are".
It is clear that artificial milk is not poison. Children grow normally and receive a quantity of nutrients they need, now, The problem of drinking artificial milk is not the milk that is taken in itself, but the one that is not taken.
The child who drinks artificial milk does not drink breast milk and it protects against diseases such as type 1 and type 2 diabetes, prevents obesity and has a lower amount of protein than artificial milk (less protein, less work the kidney should do of a baby).
What I am going to say is a hypothesis that still has no scientific support (as far as I know). Perhaps some of the current health problems in the adult population (hypertension, closely linked to the functioning of the kidneys, obesity or type 2 diabetes) would be less important or numerous if we had been breastfed for longer.
Following this hypothesis, it could also be that the increase in cases of type 1 diabetes was related to low breastfeeding rates.
Also, many women who are suffering from breast or ovarian cancer may not have had it if they had breastfed for a more or less prolonged time (the risk decreases 4.6% for every 12 months that breastfeeds and this is not a hypothesis).
Summarizing
There are many things that have been done throughout life and many people dare to say that nothing has happened to them. As I have already said, not everything that is bad causes instant death or leaves you psychologically depleted for life.
Our body and our mind are the fruit of each and every one of our experiences and, personally, I prefer to raise my children based on my beliefs (which in many cases are not those of a lifetime) because they probably are not going to “ nothing happens ”for doing it this way.
By the way, can you think of anything more than "It has been done a lifetime and nothing has happened to us"?
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