A baby is like an animal (in fact, it is), helpless and almost constantly dissatisfied, "selfish" and dependent who does not think of his mother or his father or his tiredness.
That said it sounds almost like an evil being, however it is not so, but it is simply a creature incapable of reasoning whose intention is solely and exclusively to survive. To do this he will cry every time he needs something, he will suck every two times if he is hungry or if he needs to calm down and complain about anything that bothers him.
This makes many mothers look literally overwhelmed at first, because the change is abysmal, and many people want to lend a hand, taking care of the baby ("leave me the child, baby, and rest a little"). The problem is that separating mother and baby is usually not a good idea because the surrogate does not smell like mom, nor is it mom and the mother, free for a moment, does not usually rest, but takes advantage of doing things around the house .
It is for this reason that the best advice that can be given to a mother is that before the offer of help she says: “don't help me with the child, help me with the house”.
Yes, it's true, I'm tired
They ask you to give the child to rest and it turns out that you say no, how calm, that I can. All this with obvious dark circles, a difficult solution and a house almost upside down.
Then they remind you how tired you are ("but how not, but look at yourself, if you can't do more") and forget that It's true, you're tired, but the baby still needs you almost every minute.
This happens with the couple, with the mother-in-law, with the sister, with the mother ... everyone wants to lend a hand taking the baby and no, that is not the solution (if you hurry the father, a little while, still ...).
Thanks, but could you help me otherwise
Help is infinitely appreciated and anyone willing to lend a hand will always be welcome, but it is not necessary to separate the mother from the baby to help, but quite the opposite, to promote that they remain together, that the mother sleeps if the baby sleeps, that she has her breast lying down, that they sleep together if necessary so that the baby can breastfeed while she keeps her eyes closed, even in bed (which tires less than sitting down to breastfeed trying not to close my eyes).
Ideally, if you want to help, lend a hand with the washing machines, with the food, with the dishes, the floor and the dust of the furniture ... come on, that the ideal is that the mother can take care of her baby and that the Baby can be taken care of by the person she recognizes as her caregiver.
If instead we separate them and the mother goes to sleep (or to rest), when we return the baby she will be in them: the baby that night will sleep worse because he has been with people who are not his mother and who does not recognize as your primary caregiver, living the moment, probably, with much more stress than if I had been with her and also the house will remain in them, everything to do.
